|the girl inside|
The memories of our past can shape our present motivation, so we have to pay attention to the past episodes of our lives that can be conditioning our present responses.
As I had to grow too fast, I´ve never been able to take the freedom to play and act childish. So the little child I was still resides within me and wants to be listened. I think that all the persons who have had to be over responsible and haven´t had the chance to grow and mature in a normal sequence of events have the same problem.
For a long time I´ve thought that being adult was to be sophisticated, serious and task-oriented rather than be imaginative, joyful, sensitive and loving, but this biased perspective didn´t help me very much to feel "normally" or to enjoy my life.
Till I understood that I was only suppressing the problem, and I was not giving a true response to it, I didn´t start to move forward. I had to accept that I hadn´t learnt to spend time each day in pleasure and joy and somehow I had to integrate the unease feeling that this was causing me.
That´s when I started to deal with the idea of the inner child. I´m not going to talk about how the inner child come into being, as it is a complex issue, but the thing is that when I found some nurturing messages that I could give her, I started to feel calmed down.
These are the messages that makes her (me) feel appeased:
Don´t be so serious about life
Take time to do the things you want to do
Have fun each day
Enjoy the small things in life
Permit someone else to care for you
Let the creativity reigns
Cultivate a sense of wonderment
Don´t seek to please others
Express your feelings, even when they seem to be overly sentimental
Be true to yourself and honest with others about who you are
Slow down and let go anger
Love and accept love
Be proud of who you are
Take time for yourself
Help others and accept others helping you
Enjoy your life with no guilt feeling
Honor your story
Let your fantasy life emerges
Don´t be afraid to play
Laugh at your mistakes
Keep your eyes open to beauty
Do your duty and don´t forget to have a good time
here: an old cup given by my sister in law to my mother (she gave it subsequently to me). It belonged to her grandmother